Saturday, June 26, 2010
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Friday, June 18, 2010
This was an excellent and touching tribute to parenting the easy child.
Cadence is an easy child. She is sweet, laid-back, fun to be around, and she likes to play by herself. She is willing to share (usually), she likes to clean up her toys, and she is easy to put off or distract. It's wonderful. But I have to be careful not to abuse it. Some days I find myself always saying, "Just a minute baby doll, let Mama do this.. or finish this.. or take care of that.." and never actually spending any time with her. Afterwards I feel guilty, and she feels left out. Neither of those are good for our relationship!
Anyway, I really appreciated this lady's thoughts on parenting the easy child. I try to make sure to dedicate time to just playing with Cadence, and I am learning to be sensitive to her small cues and needs.
Now, take a deep breath or just stop reading, because I'm stepping up onto my soapbox!
People tell me all the time how lucky I am to have such an easy baby. I totally agree! I think God must have given us an easy one first because He knew we would be terrified of another one if she was difficult!
But then they say - "Wow! You must get a ton of stuff done, or get to shop as long as you want, or talk to your friends or whatever since she doesn't cry very often!" "If she were my baby, I would totally let her be on her own all the time until she started crying!"
Wait... what?! You want me to ignore my baby's needs just because she's not throwing a tantrum?! You want me to punish my child for being good?! You want me to expect more of her than most people do of their school age children, just because she's quiet?!
1. That's cruel. No child's sweet nature should be taken advantage of like that.
2. If I did that, she probably wouldn't be an easy child anymore. If you ignore a child until they start crying, what are they going to do? Start crying. Throw tantrums. Do everything in their power to get your attention. And if little cues don't work, then they escelate.
I have actually seen this happen. Parents assume that since their baby isn't crying, it doesn't need them. And that baby grows a little and becomes an absolute terror, impossible to work with and not fun to be around. So I will not be ignoring Cadence just because she's nice!
Ok, I'm done. Sorry.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
So these were my good deals today. The soaps were on sale for $4 each. The razors were $9 and $10. So my total was $27. I had a "Spend $25 get $5 off" coupon CVS had emailed me (sign up for their email notifications - it's worth it!). I also had a buy one get one free coupon for the soaps, a $1 coupon for the soaps, as well as $4 and $5 coupons for the razors. This saved me $19, bringing my total down to $8.
So I spent $8 to buy all these things. Good deal, right? Gets better!
I got $4 back for each of the soaps, $5 for one razor, and $4 for the other razor. That's $17 I can spend on anything in CVS next time I go in. Which means...
I got paid nine dollars to shop at CVS today!
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
I LOVE OFFICE SUPPLIES!
So when I get a new package of pens, I have to try them all out. I write the alphabet (in cursive, in print, in caps, in lower case...), then I write some names to see how the pen flows (OCD, I know).
Anyway, I was trying out a new pen, fiddling with names I might like for any future kids. I really love the name "Liberty" so I was writing it different ways. It's Kristina's middle name, but I really wouldn't mind stealing it. So I looked over at Tony and said, "What do you think of the name Liberty?" His response? Something to the effect of -
"At this rate, you'd better name her Tyranny"
I cracked up.
I asked him what prompted that, and he said he'd been listening to a debate on the radio about liberty and tyranny. I guess we'll just have wait and see if she winds up as Liberty or Tyranny. Maybe we'll hedge our bets and name her Liberty Tyranny.
Monday, June 14, 2010
It was easy for us to get started. Mommy was an interpreter while I was growing up. Papa could sign quite a bit; Kristina and I a little. Now my cousin in an interpreter, and Josh is working on his certification. So we had lots of encouragements and resources, as well as a little background knowledge to help us out. I already knew several signs that were handy for babies, and we could always call and ask Mommy if we needed to know another.
When Cadence was born we decided we really wanted to teach her sign language while she was learning to talk. We signed off and on, but weren't very consistent. Then, the incident happened. She had crawled over the stereo, which she knows she is not allowed to touch, and started pushing buttons. Repeatedly. Even after she'd gotton in trouble twenty million times. This is not like Cadence. She hates to be in trouble. She punishes herself (its really funny to watch - cracks me up).
I finally figured out - she doesn't want to push the buttons - she want to listen to music - and she doesn't know how to tell me!! I turned on the music, and everything was instantly better. She clapped and grinned and crawled off to play.
So I taught her the sign for music. She picked it up on the first try. And she didn't get in trouble again over the stereo for long time - because any time she wanted to listen to music, she just signed music and I would turn it on for her.
The next sign she learned was just as sanity saving. All Done. It is wonderful to not have to guess when she is finished eating. She puts her food down, signs all done, says done, and reaches out to have her hands cleaned. It's great. Of course, she also frantically signs all done starting about half way through church, but just because she's all done doesn't mean we are.
Her funniest sign is bless you. She fake sneezes while she signs it and chuckles the whole time.
Since then she has learned several signs. She can sign:
"change" (for diaper change)
"play" and of course,
Thats all I can think of right now. She is learning dog, but she's not very good at it at all. Her very clearest sign is "more". She actually puts her hands in the right shape, puts them all the way together and pulls them apart, just like you're supposed to. It's great.
Along the way we discovered several resources I would highly recommend. In general, look for sources that are current - sign language, just like any other language, is fluid. Also look for things that are ASL (American Sign Language). That is the language most deaf people use. A very few use Signed English, but it is not very popular, and you also have to learn more signs to communicate the same concept.
If you are signing with a baby, I really like the "Signing Smart" board book series. They are fun even if you don't do sign language - they have tabs, textures, photographs of real babies and people, and fun illustrations. There are lots of board books and videos for baby signs these days. My personal opinion is this: If you're going to teach your baby to sign, you might as well teach them the real sign, not a made up baby one. That way, when they are older they can still use the skill to communicate with deaf people. Of course, simplifying the more complicated signs is probably a good idea.
Tony and I enjoy the "Say It With Sign" DVD series. They are kind of corny, but they subtly teach syntax and style along with the basic signs neccessary to have a conversation. They are a great way to get started if you don't know any signs at all or need a refresher course - or if you just want to expand your basics.
I found a pretty good website called Signing Savvy. It has a free video dictionary with a very easy to use search tool. So far it has had every word I've wanted to look up.
We still have an entire language stretching out in front of us to learn. We want to eventually be able to carry on a conversation with someone who only signs. But it's really fun - and what we do know is enough to save our sanity - for now :)
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Friday, June 11, 2010
I helped with this one. The bride had been in the habit of calling all men cows, until she finally met her match. She declared him to be the official uncowish man, Super Cameron. While we were visiting his family, it came up and we said, "Hey, we should make you a cape!" He thought we were joking.